June 9th, 2009
This morning I sorted through some boxes in the search for a document and I stumbled upon some old files. My life is scattered on three continents and I have bits and pieces of my former life stored here and there, here for now being my in law’s house in Canada where I stay when we visit.
I came across a correspondence course I translated into French in the mid-eighties that is still so relevant today. I will retrieve it and take it to France, where I currently reside where this type of material is now ripe for dissemination. I realize writing this that I will then have to start blogging in French, something that I have been reluctant to do. I will have to investigate that resistance at another time.
The other file I came across contained some letters and a copy of an ad I had placed in the local Montréal newspaper, where I then lived. This was the year 1988, 21 years ago and I had returned from India some three months earlier and wanted to share my newfound freedom and enlightenment with a partner on the same wavelength.
Writing this still brings up lots of emotions because it was one of those synchronistic experiences that I will never forget about. (It has taken me some twenty years to fully accept that this type of experiences have nothing to do with chance or luck, but come from an internal connection to WHO YOU ARE.)
It was a Wednesday night and I was sitting in my living room reflecting on the day when the phone rang. It was Abbas calling from Ottawa where he worked and inviting me to go out the following week-end. I was surprised, a bit startled, since it was late and I certainly didn’t expect him to call. He used to work with my former boyfriend, a Frenchmen of my own culture I had broken up with before I left for India.
After a few seconds of hesitation I accepted the invitation, internally thinking that I might as well get practice dating again if I want to meet a new partner to share my life with. And more so since that very same Wednesday morning I had placed an ad in the Personal section of La Presse, the local French newspaper, ad that would appear on the following week-end.
Come the week-end he shows up at my door step; he had tickets for the opera Aida playing in the Olympic Stadium. Sitting high up on the uncomfortable benches watching the drama unfolding in the arena, I experienced an electric attraction towards him that totally took me by surprise and it was shared.
It was a magical night, a connection beyond culture and time linked us. We found out later that we had been together in other past lives, a soul mate connection of sort occurring. We had many challenges given our different cultural backgrounds in this current life. However my commitment to the relationship has been the source of so much growth and transformation, on going it seems…
He left to work in Saudia Arabia, eight months after we met and we carried on a long distance relationship for 7 years, while I was completing counselling training in Montreal.
It seems that in my life I have been blessed to experience relationships in all shapes and forms, which must have something to do with my purpose from now on. Even a few months ago, I would never have used the term ‘blessed’ because then I was still more in touch with the pain of it all rather than the joy of having integrated the lessons presented by the challenges.
And I can’t help but reflect that this integration occurred because I am reconnected to my Self and no longer lost in others, caring, rescuing them without success.
Today my boundaries are clear again on the earthly plane. However I feel unbound and connected on the etheric plane.
Flow is happening again in my life as I clear past conditioning daily it seems….
Commitment in relationships opens the door to transformation!
Love it Aline. Thanks for sharing.
Lisa
As I have read and experienced, there is no such thing as coincidence. We are meant to meet the people we meet, if only to learn the lessons we need. Whether short-term or no, they were all meant to be. Thanks!
Aline,
Thanks for sharing the story of how you met and felt that special attraction – and – maintained the commitment to your relationship. I especially relate to the way you reframed your emotional state from feelings of pain and being different from the norm, to feeling blessed by being able to have experienced relationship in different forms. Using the word “blessed” has triggered an “Aha” moment for me in my marriage. I also feel blessed to have a certain amount of freedom that so many other people don’t have when living in traditional situations.
What I have gleaned from this blog is Love & Forgiveness are opportunites for growth in all our relationships.
Especially meaningful for me lately is the Ho’oponopono prayer:
Thank You (for this opportunity to clear; to release this suffering so that the blessing of the lesson can emerge)
I Love You (directed toward the divine within the individual with whom you are in conflict with, that place within them that is infinite)
I Am Sorry (for whatever it is within me that has created this conflict. I take full responsibility for it)
Please forgive me (and release whatever caused this suffering)
Thank you Eugenia for reminding me of the Ho’oponopono prayer. It is so healing.
The first time I heard it was on a call with Jennifer McLean on the Healing with the Masters series.